An Introvert’s Guide to Surviving Office Days

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Brown leather backpack with a laptop inside, black sneakers, and a pink Yeti tumbler on a wooden floor.

Every office day begins the same way.

The night before, I tell myself it will be fine. It’s only one day. I’ve done it plenty of times. I might even enjoy getting out of the house and seeing people.

Then my alarm goes off. I’m warm and comfortable in bed, and suddenly I’m trying to think of a believable reason why I absolutely cannot go to work today.

I work from home most days, but twice a week, I have to go into the office. If you’re an introvert working a hybrid schedule, the occasional office day can somehow feel harder than going in every day. You would think doing it regularly would make it easier. Instead, my brain treats it like a major event rather than a normal part of my workweek.

The actual office day usually isn’t that bad. It’s the anticipation, the early alarm, the getting ready, the commute and the knowledge that I’m going to be visible to other human beings for several hours straight.

Working from home has spoiled me. I can drink my coffee while my computer starts up, get dressed when I’m ready, take a walk, stretch, eat whenever I want and hang out with my pets. I can even work outside in the backyard when the weather cooperates. Most importantly, no one is nearby listening to me stumble through a phone call or wondering why I’ve been staring at the same spreadsheet for ten minutes.

Going into the office requires a little more effort.

Here is how I survive it.

Office Day Starts the Night Before

My office-day dread normally begins when I’m already in bed.

I’ll remember that I need to wake up earlier, get fully dressed, do my hair, pack everything I need and sit in traffic for anywhere from 45 minutes to an hour.

For some reason, one office morning feels like it requires more preparation than an entire work-from-home week.

I used to let that realization ruin the rest of my night. I would start calculating how many hours of sleep I could still get and imagining how tired I would be the next day.

Eventually, I realized that dreading it wasn’t going to get me out of it. Stressing about it in advance only means I experience the office day twice: once in my imagination and once in real life.

The buildup is almost always worse than the actual day. I try to remember that when my brain starts acting like tomorrow morning is an approaching natural disaster.

Do Your Future Self a Favor

I wish I could tell you that I carefully prepare everything the night before.

I do not.

My office is casual, so my outfit is usually jeans, a hoodie and Converse. In the morning, I throw a granola bar and a banana into my bag, fill my water bottle, make coffee and grab something easy for breakfast to eat on the road, like microwaveable protein pancakes - hold the syrup.

This system technically works, but it also leaves plenty of room for error.

I have forgotten my work laptop before.

I was already about 15 minutes into my commute when I realized it, which is not what you want to discover when you still have another 30 to 45 minutes of driving ahead of you.

So, although I don’t always follow my own advice, preparing the night before really does help. Even just putting your bag, laptop, keys and badge together can save you from wandering around the house half-awake while muttering, “Where did I put it?”

The "PLEASE DON'T FORGET YOUR LAPTOP" Checklist

Laptop and charger
Keys and badge
Headphones
Water bottle
Breakfast or snacks
An outfit ironed and ready to go

The fewer choices you have to make in the morning, the more time you have to mentally prepare for leaving your house.

Apparently, eliminating unnecessary decisions is kind of my thing. It’s also why I let a bag choose my next book.

Try Not to Start the Day in a Panic

My alarm is normally set for 6:30.

It goes off a few times. I continue lying there because I’m comfortable and convinced that I still have plenty of time.

Then my husband needs to get ready for work, I look at the clock, and suddenly the morning has become an emergency.

Urgency is unfortunately one of my most effective motivators.

Ideally, I would wake up, have coffee and breakfast, sit quietly for a few minutes, shower, get completely ready and leave the house feeling calm and put together.

In reality, there have definitely been mornings when I let my hair air-dry during the commute and throw it into a ponytail in the parking lot.

Waking up slightly earlier does make the morning calmer, even though it also means being slightly more tired. Lamps that slowly brighten to mimic the sunrise can help too.

The goal is not to transform into someone who joyfully leaps out of bed at sunrise.

The goal is to avoid beginning the day in such a rush that you arrive at work feeling like you’ve already completed a full shift.

Being Perceived Is Exhausting

Waking up and getting ready are probably the hardest parts of an office day for me, but the social side is a close second.

My office has unassigned desks in an open space with half cubicles, so depending on when I arrive, I may end up sitting near people I barely know. I also started working for the company the same week COVID sent everyone remote, so I never really had the normal settling-in period.

This creates the perfect introvert dilemma.

People are talking around me, and I start wondering whether I look shy or antisocial. Then I wonder whether they think I dislike them. Then I become so distracted by wondering whether I should say something that I have absolutely no idea what I would say.

I like people. I like my coworkers. I just don’t always know how to jump into conversations, especially when my brain is still loading for the day.

My team makes office days much easier. I am very reserved until I get to know someone, and then I don’t shut up. Being around people I’m already comfortable with helps me relax and remember that I do, in fact, know how to socialize.

When I’m not feeling particularly talkative, I smile, listen and do my best. That is usually enough.

Introversion does not mean you dislike everyone. It just means that interaction uses energy, including the conversations you are not actually participating in.

Protect Your Social Battery

An open office can make it feel like part of your brain is paying attention to everything at once.

There are conversations happening nearby, phones ringing, people walking past your desk and the constant awareness that someone could speak to you at any moment.

Even when I’m focused on my own work, part of my brain is still monitoring everything around me.

Headphones help tremendously. I can listen to music, a podcast or an audiobook while creating a little bubble around myself. They also provide a polite visual signal that I’m concentrating and may not be available for a surprise conversation.

I also try to save quieter tasks for office days when I can. Having something specific to focus on makes it easier to protect my energy and tune out some of what is happening around me.

Taking a short break alone can help too. Eat lunch by yourself, sit somewhere quiet for a few minutes or step outside if your office has somewhere walkable nearby.

Mine does not, which is one thing I really miss about working from home. At home, I can go for a walk or stretch whenever my body starts feeling stiff. At the office, I tend to work straight through, which leaves me mentally tired and physically creaky by the end of the day.

Tiny breaks still count, even when all you do is refill your water bottle and stare at a wall for a minute.

Pack an Office Survival Bag

Office temperatures seem to have two settings: aggressively cold or weirdly warm.

There is no middle ground.

I always bring a sweater, headphones, snacks, a water bottle, a phone charger, gum and lip balm. None of these things are exciting, but together they make the day significantly more tolerable.

Basically, pack whatever keeps you warm, fed, hydrated and comfortable.

Yes, You Can Bribe Yourself

One of the easiest ways to make an office day more manageable is to give yourself something to look forward to.

It does not need to be expensive or elaborate. Sometimes, all I need to look forward to is hanging out in the hammock with my dog when I get home.

Listen to a favorite podcast during the commute. Pick up coffee. Get lunch from somewhere you like. Plan takeout for dinner so you don’t have to come home and immediately start cooking.

My drive can take up to an hour, but listening to music makes it feel less like wasted time. On the way home, I usually turn the music up and let myself decompress before I get there.

By the time I arrive home, I’m ready for comfortable clothes and a quiet evening.
Having that to look forward to makes the whole day feel a little easier.

You do not need to earn rest by having the worst day of your life. Sometimes you are simply tired because you spent several hours commuting, concentrating, making conversation and sitting under fluorescent lights.

Plan for the Post-Office Crash

After an office day, I usually feel mentally fatigued and physically stiff.

It doesn’t necessarily mean anything went wrong. I may have had a productive day, enjoyed seeing my coworkers and felt good about getting fully ready and leaving the house.

I’m still exhausted afterward.

An office day may not be the best day to schedule errands, a hard workout, dinner plans and three household projects.

Sometimes I need a little alone time when I get home. That is not rude or personal. It just means my brain needs a minute to recharge after being available and visible all day.

The Office Is Not All Bad

Despite everything I’ve just said, I don’t actually hate every part of going into the office.

I enjoy seeing the coworkers I’m close to. It is helpful to work with my team in person, and some conversations are much easier face-to-face than over email or chat.

I also tend to get more work done at the office because there are fewer household distractions. There is no laundry staring at me, no pet asking for attention and no temptation to wander into the kitchen for the fifth time.

Leaving the house can improve my mood too. I get fully dressed, listen to music in the car and experience a clear separation between work and home.

Which is probably proof that the grass is always greener where I’m not. When I’m home, getting out sounds nice. When I’m at the office, I’m counting down until I can go home.

I can enjoy seeing my team and still need silence afterward. I can have a productive office day and still prefer working from home.

You Made It. Now Go Recharge

I may never become someone who wakes up excited to put on real pants, drive an hour and make small talk before 9 a.m.

That is okay.

The goal is not to force yourself to love office days. It is to make them manageable enough that you don’t spend the entire night before questioning all of your life choices.

Prepare whatever you can ahead of time. Bring headphones and snacks. Find at least one person you feel comfortable with. Take small breaks when your brain starts feeling crowded. Plan something relaxing for when you get home.

Most importantly, remember that the anticipation is usually worse than the actual day.

You have survived every office day so far.

And when it’s over, you can go home, change into comfortable clothes and be unavailable for the rest of the evening.

Your Turn

What is the hardest part of an office day for you?